TIPS

OC Conference Tips

This is the “OC Conference Tips” Page giving suggestions and helping you to better get “the lay of the land” to make your experience at the OC Conference as smooth, stress-free, and fun as possible. Below is an initial list of DO’s and DONT’s. Good times…

DO follow the insider driver and parking directions on the conference website to get to the activities faster and avoid unnecessary traffic, so you can’t get lost. SoCal locals also use http://sigalert.com (website or app) as a tool to get the latest traffic conditions.

DON’T…and I repeat DON’T blindly follow your GPS so you get stuck on some random freeway or lost on some weird side street.

DO arrive early and arrive on time for each event, especially the dances. This isn’t your usual show-up-fashionably-late type of dance.

DON’T show up at 11 pm with your entourage thinking that’s when things really get started. When in fact, you’ve missed most of the evening already.

DO realize that different singles are approaching the conference differently. Some are serious looking to find someone to date. Some just got divorced and need just support and friendship. Others just want to meet new friends. Others want to be spiritually fed by attending the workshops and meetings. So the conference is what you proactively make of it.

DON’T assume that if you sit by the sidelines, it’s up to the other person to make the effort. It’s up to you to reach out as well. Or don’t assume the conference is entirely a “meat market”.  We are all individuals first with individual needs, and singles second.

DO make it a goal to meet and talk to people you have never met before, including those from out-of-state (or country). So Team Utah talk it up with Team Arizona. Team Arizona meet more Team SoCal peeps. Team SoCal meet the East Coast Krew…. you get the idea.

DON’T think if you just hang out with your friends that came with you the entire weekend, that somehow you will be able to expand your social circle. 🙂

Ladies…DO be proactive and help the OC Conference Committee by inviting your local guy singles in your area to the conference, even if you are not personally interested in them on a romantic level.  Your local frog can someone else’s Prince Charming and their frog may be your Prince Charming. 🙂 It takes a village, people…and most guys are not as connected to Facebook groups or email lists and may be unaware of the conference, or they plan last minute to attend the conference. So the guys will respond positively (and feel appreciated) to personal invites from you. If you want more guys to attend, it’s up to the women (who plan with all their girlfriends 6 months beforehand) to invite the men.

Ladies…DON’T over-exaggrate the ratios. The OC Conference averages a 60F/40M ratio or better. If more women invite their local guys, that ratio will get even better, as we are striving for more even ratios this year. 🙂

Ladies…if you want the guys to approach you, DO de-clump with all your BFF’s from time-to-time (and not all dance or sit together) so that the guys will be more apt to talk one-on-one with you (if you want).

Guys…DO show some courage and ask the ladies (of a similar age to you) to dance (even if she’s a 7 and you only date 10s) 🙂 Remember, it’s just for one dance and helps you and your mojo, while giving her a chance to meet new people. You never know, your initial impression of her being a 7 might change by the end of the song.

(This is for everyone) DON’T come across as creepy or violate personal space or immediately dive into talking about some drama or inappropriate topics or prior relationship(s)/marriages within the first 5 minutes… 🙂 We can all leave the TMI moments for later (after the conference).

It is also considered inappropriate to put people into the “hot seat” by asking the following questions: “So, what’s your story?”, “How long have you been single?”, or saving the best (worst for last), “Why are you still single?” People will naturally be more open in sharing more about their life when they know the conversation won’t turn into an interrogation.

DO remember it’s important to keep conversations light, neutral, fun when meeting people for the first time at this conference.  It’s not about being fake or putting on a front, but it’s about being approachable and sharing your positive personality.

DON’T (and it’s worth repeating) DON’T mention anything about your ex at the conference.  Bashing about your ex or diving into why prior relationships didn’t work out, creates shame spirals and focuses on the negative. Perhaps focusing on the positive and remembering all the great things *you* have to offer others, can attract the right people in your life.

DO feel free to ask any questions, concerns, comments, or feedback to any of our OC Conference Hosts which will have a “Host” badge during the conference, and they will be more than happy to assist you.

DON’T assume that if there’s something or a situation that needs attention, there’s nothing you can do to change it.  Feel free to ask our Hosts to assist you.

(For guys)…DO put forth some effort in attire and grooming. That means get a hair cut and wear attire you purchased within this decade. 🙂 If the ladies are making an effort, so can you.

DON’T assume the same-o shirt and white sneakers will win over the ladies… 🙂

DO keep a positive attitude and roll with it. Sometimes, the schedule may be off, or an activity is not meeting your expectations. Keep in mind, our organizers have worked extremely hard for countless hours for months on end to make this largest singles activity of the year possible with the resources they have been given. See the glass half full.

DON’T
 feel the need to cherry-pick and over-analyze about the what-ifs. Just leave your worries behind and enjoy this awesome conference and all the great and with-it people that are attending from all over the U.S. and beyond.